The most common reason for forgetting names is failing to ( m# @' N4 ] b: g7 C! Jfocus on the moment of introduction, so you never hear: T& {6 G4 {# i$ P& V6 U" U
them in the first place. You are too busy thinking about what : a# ?4 q# m1 J+ l/ oyou're going to say next or worrying about what others will' _6 v% E1 Z$ x$ W) N( `5 A
think of you. ' C! Y! F# R j- y ( H6 r e* ~% J# Y8 |7 |( V# fUse the following 5-second strategy to remember first : k, ~' y( M9 U& K0 n# q/ Mnames: 5 J3 c. [* q9 R @* ]% @: m1) The first second: Focus on the moment of introduction. 2 N, Z$ M3 c/ a9 Y6 V! b6 ]2) The second second: Don't think about what to( r$ e5 F0 F8 q( Z
say—listen for the name.# R; M h- Q9 c1 p2 z
3) The third second: Repeat the name aloud.( x0 o# H8 |) Y+ U. r3 y
4) The fourth second: Think of someone you know 9 L' a# y I: K0 ]. bwith the same name. 7 q+ k& e! b0 Q9 Z& `: }5) The fifth second: Use the name during and at the* u5 P( U! J) Z" n9 }; C
end of the conversation./ U: ^7 A+ A M
3 e) h9 o! c8 u4 {0 h Y---Don Gabor <<How to start a conversation and make friends>>