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Originally posted by shuishijie at 2005-6-24 12:15 PM:
6 H8 M0 o# x, U B) s, w, Di sense a little tension here * A3 c* E" C9 ^; g
sorry, i didn't mean you by 'you' which is a general reference.
8 Z. K7 O/ t2 U" Zback to our discussion, you are absolutely right." o1 {) s' S$ r. H. D) a
if she/he 有那金刚钻, ie. intelligence and self-control, then she/he 就能揽这瓷器活儿.
, X' V. R) X; ?7 b9 F& U4 {Furthermore, if she/he cheated and is able to hide it for the rest of her/his life, then she/he has to bear with the guilty for the rest of her/his life. P" s% _6 L& s7 B' \- D5 Y; u
If both cheated and can face it very well, then both of them will be worried if the other will cheat again.
# c8 D* r3 O/ S" l. h. o2 nIf both are not worried about the other cheating, then is this a marriage you want?) C+ d8 Z4 U( z8 n) x+ C( j8 m
Not mean you here " V i& y7 V! r! ]; S! H9 \" @4 L
4 G, G% A T3 ^没有没有,没有任何敌意, 随便聊天。+ B8 A( P3 J8 c& W+ L
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其实我只是说一种可能性,并没有道德评价,或者人身安插。$ V. `& d: c. A' c4 B
1 ~" z. J7 I2 {! b. ~8 l你后面的三种情形,不同的人,不同的情商,不同的原则,处理情况也不同,有的一样可以花好月圆,有的则是一团乱麻。所以我说的“金刚钻“的比喻,是说没有大家都搞定的本事(搞定情人老婆劳工和自己),就别冒险。+ ]' E- |' s6 s- _/ @
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比如前几天看到杂志里谈到“处理婚外恋“说得好,向你的伴侣坦白之前,先想一想,如果你只是想摆脱guilty感觉,那么向伴侣坦白,等于把自己的负担转移给你的伴侣而已,对你的婚姻毫无好处,那么不如跟心理医生讲述。除非这次婚外行为有性疾病的可能,你需要带你的伴侣去就医。所以还是说呢, if you can not take the heat, get out of the kitchen.
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我本人对夫妻远距离生存,各找临时情人,是持理解通融的态度的。我并不羡慕那些多年分离还守身如玉的夫妻。当然我也崇尚夫妻的忠诚,所以我更希望的是常相厮守。 |
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