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( U* i' M$ u1 n4 O6 H1 e8 D/ h幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气
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娃是很知道party的special的， ...
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& j! W# A% {4 P( L- r我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？" M2 C6 N8 {7 h; D' h
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。2 b: ?* G& ^3 X$ y
, F2 X5 U. d; C另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。3 s1 u8 y; g8 w: l4 H3 Z# W
8 G: B% t7 m# B7 k" v$ R9 L对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举
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For Kids:
6 b9 m/ G1 Y8 h8 k6 mNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry.
9 F1 D' Q1 {2 T4 y) C1 `) lThey get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
6 w) O" ~ Z# Q9 |: ]5 U/ \) z They are overindulged by too many presents.
$ |! p/ d! l0 X3 s: R( M0 A5 Z+ rThey feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
4 d$ y# g3 H& M# b7 ^- W4 AThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.- s3 a( x5 r7 G
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.; j/ d5 Q$ f+ i4 m/ u
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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* Q9 d! d7 S. b+ n! BFor Parents:
3 d# C* r3 h- p+ e" V% f. t9 h7 qSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
, G/ W0 t/ F" Y. k: F! cThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. & G( e2 y# R+ @8 w; y& |
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
% p6 @% R3 H0 I! K8 s# T p! [They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.
6 i7 s7 O! k; _: M% SThey feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.7 O6 Q& ^7 s- P0 F! f! O8 P* j
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”8 U+ |( a1 R+ r3 g' x3 r
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.5 D% l; _5 B6 |6 {
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.5 M; V! l7 O+ f9 [0 q
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For the Community and Culture:
6 X$ g5 V. h( T/ A0 `This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:1 q4 }7 I) y0 ]1 L' j
A too much stuff culture
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A trash and waste culture
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A envy culture0 c- k" A+ D/ c5 Z; \) }: z
A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...# K& C9 M. z& |5 @- ] e! s& T5 Z
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10