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4 H* E% l0 g5 `: L8 A幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气- C! u7 D) E6 B
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2 `3 b( O! b5 _% K$ bsweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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% b' h* M: [: z0 F( t我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？
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0 y4 Y' \9 ?) z6 P我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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6 |2 f4 j1 Z& T) Y; T) F$ C5 x另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。/ L& _5 I, f$ ^* g# _
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举4 a4 s" u1 B2 Q" o E
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! t& G; ?; o2 I/ @4 q* C" xNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 8 ~6 o4 ^; ]: w# R/ _) |
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated.
- Q6 m- ]) t; o+ U5 H; l) p They are overindulged by too many presents. 5 H4 v/ l9 S7 a, u. D" Y; J
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need. / T. }" Q( O2 u5 ^) |& h$ r5 n
They feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.
$ C% u5 c0 F3 c' |& F6 } They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.
0 `9 G9 m9 c' K0 ]1 Z3 n& z Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.
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For Parents:
) s" K) }0 T0 m- r/ r' C* @* I, sSome parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
/ T; P1 l* A9 K/ H' lThey feel pressured to “make” their child “happy” by meeting escalating community standards for parties. / I/ J& E Y8 [ A7 c
They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
# ~% J$ l; @5 ~They feel overloaded with TOO MUCH STUFF, which they have to manage, organize, and clean up.9 k; |: _0 b b" n! Z
They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.7 k& {7 w) H6 D0 X
They feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”0 l- ~& G9 S7 g5 S1 o" @' _
They run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.) v6 d: e4 Q7 y$ ~( r
They experience couple strife when parents do not agree on how big to make the party and how to carry it off.4 i! R% v% U8 r3 F- ?2 a6 u" a( D
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' t' v$ y- [. t' n5 L5 VFor the Community and Culture:
+ J% o9 ?/ |$ h) F8 s3 ^/ aThis issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
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。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...7 M% c$ [" R0 ?) [& T9 O- L* L
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10