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本帖最后由 三思 于 2011-4-16 09:04 编辑 $ X8 k) T! D5 u9 O
幼儿园还要再给他像你说的这样办一遍的，和家长弄是不矛盾的，美好记忆完全可以更多一点，没有必要限制，只要精力和财力允许，完全可以办生日会，生日会怎么算也算不着不好的风气, p4 A6 X! W3 y( V9 R
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娃是很知道party的special的， ... f3 [' W3 F, a" c' x
sweetlele 发表于 2011-4-15 22:43 
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我认为大型生日会是不良风气，因为一部分有精力财力的家庭给没有精力财力的家庭造成了压力，父母因为担心孩子因此受到压力，而不得不举办同样形式的生日会。而这种形式并没有赋予生日会特别的意义。比如乐乐你设定的20元礼物符合标准，一个月9个生日，180元礼品预算，承受不起的家庭，是不是就没有能力让自己孩子参加朋友的生日会这样的社交活动？ f7 k) x- \+ {9 Y+ Z4 T& o& a
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我家的财力精力大概不能和乐乐家比，但是我觉得给小孩子的生日大肆刷卡不是一件值得提倡的事情，有悖我的教育观念。
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" ?2 b4 s! h; d/ B另外，我搜了一下，中外对小孩子生日会都有反对声音。这个网站特别好，http://birthdayswithoutpressure.org/专门讲生日会的，为什么当前的生日会是不良风气，有比我更多更好的解释和说明。其中也提到了乐乐你说的学校办一遍家长办一遍的问题，提到了孩子要赶很多生日会的问题。 r6 g/ M2 q3 T3 r' X4 X6 y9 L
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对孩子的不良影响也有非常详细的列举: g, _/ K4 [3 t6 _' @0 \
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For Kids:
1 d: N- o- |- y9 ?8 n1 @5 FNot all children face each of these consequences, but enough children experience them to give us worry. 9 E$ p5 R9 b* p; ~ x8 v; V5 P
They get stressed out from parties that are too large and too orchestrated./ m4 L1 e3 o0 [9 N/ F. w/ y4 D
They are overindulged by too many presents. 5 c k9 \- l7 m" G( L' K4 i
They feel entitled to what they want, not just what they need.
8 a# Z; f2 g' [% |- B7 gThey feel envious of friends who get more—and someone will always get more.* }: e O* h' \4 s4 H
They feel disappointed, because enough is never enough.1 q# j' H- k5 C( {1 b( q3 R
Long term, they develop materialistic values that equate personal celebrations with accumulating things.+ y+ B0 C R9 H" y
" {* C2 T8 h6 T" m1 ?6 Z: ?8 DFor Parents: * D+ j+ x' Q8 j2 e, f4 r' ]
Some parents say they are happy with birthday parties that drive other parents up the wall. But we have talked to many parents who report these consequences.
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They feel guilty if the party was below community standards that they don’t really agree with.
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^$ T& b0 P1 P; O T1 h7 ~" r% |They feel an energy drain from planning, shopping, preparing, and hosting the party.
, R8 Y" T/ d7 K2 ]) C& h9 zThey feel regret or resentment afterwards when their child, or others, is not appreciative enough—“Why did I extend myself so much?”
6 N& P, y( y# jThey run up debt from their own parties and from buying gifts for other parties.
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This issue is bigger than individual families. Personal decisions affect the wider world. Out of control birthday parties contribute to:
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A trash and waste culture) p4 ]1 ^6 Z3 H
An entitlement culture
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A more of everything culture |
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楼主: babalala001
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发表于 2011-4-15 18:34
显身卡
。 我老大三岁不到时被邀请参加了一个三岁小朋友的生日会，整个过程的程式化，送的东西昂贵又垃圾程度，父母劳命伤财的准备，孩子无所谓的样子，把我刺激的不轻，决定5岁前肯定不办生日 ...
发表于 2011-4-15 18:44
智慧女神总是那么高瞻远瞩
还以为三大爷挺老实的，在您的精心调教下
发表于 2011-4-16 11:10