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I usually don't join the discussion here, this is part of the "fun" of being able to say whatever you like at this site. : c+ R& e- V- o8 S" x8 J; w0 ~
It is because my name has been mentioned here so I want to have some clarifications.( b# e5 U! m& b ~3 y; ^6 f
$ b4 a, f& Q5 f: J- A0 PI agree that to let baby cry unattended is not a good idea, but this is not what we want, what we want is to have baby has a good night sleep!
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Let's look at how adults go to sleep, I mean a good sleep, a deep sleep. Ususally people sleep well in their own bed, same pillow, same blanket, same enviroment, comfortable temperature, certain kind of darkness, quietness, undisturbance.......... we all go to bed with our own rituals, e.g. we change into pjs, brush our teeth, wash our faces.......turn the light out and go to sleep. 0 j* H5 S% V# W( p8 B( m
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When we fall asleep, we go from a light sleep into a REM sleep (deep sleep); then we come out from the deep sleep to light sleep, we might "woke up"; then, we have our own way of putting ourselves back to sleep again, e.g. we turn to a certain position to make oursleves comfortable and fall asleep again, we go into another deep sleep, then light sleep, then........In one night we might have this cycle up to four times. We did not notice that because we fall back to sleep so quickly, we "forgot" we had "woke up" during the night. This is a normal sleeping pattern for adults.! H. U4 I' w* i1 a, @9 k7 j
1 E6 \; x0 ?* Q( LSo does babies! Usually babies can sleep quite well during the night (6-8 hous of sleep, then wake up to be fed once, then they might sleep for a few more hours before they get up and play) after they are 4 months of age and older. . G: e3 i& J& A5 A4 o
' q) \: c% J, _But why some of the babies keep waking up at night? We need to see how these babies fall asleep during the night. If every night, baby need to be rocked or cuddled to sleep by an adult, when they woke up from a deep sleep, they would search for an adult to rocked or cuddled them back to sleep again. So they would send out a signal "CRY" to get attention from adults.
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6 k; y; S; h# e( [2 h& I, Z; @What I am trying to say here is: start with letting your baby find his own way to fall asleep. (all the 'he' and 'his' apply to male and female).9 Y' P; `$ F; e; J1 i2 o0 L
That is: after you finished feeding your baby, give him a nice burp, change his diaper, make him feel comfortable, put him to bed when he is still awake.2 ~) q" _5 l. i; Q# ~ Q
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Ask yourself these questions: 9 K9 w2 k. \& x' S- b8 A, D8 T* q
Do you feel comfortable of letting your baby sleep on his own? 0 t) E* J t6 \7 Q @
Do you trust your baby can (able to do this on his own) put himself to sleep at night?
) A1 W! ]4 Z$ |3 y6 ]4 ?5 |, YAre you willing to "let go", to give your baby an opportunity to learn how to put himself to sleep?; n- C4 g% `1 ~; k$ r; N; q. |
' {4 u4 R; _# a; `These are some of the growing process, let your child learn how to sleep on his own, let your child learn how to put himself back to sleep; let your child learn how to use a cup, to learn how to feed himself, to undress himself, to put on clothes on his own...........Are we brave enough to let our children to try in errors, to learn in errors? My points are: they need a certain period of time to learn something, e.g. when they are learning how to use a cup, they make a mess first before they can drink from a cup properly. DO we have enough confident to trust them that they will succeed eventually? Or do we stop their learning how to drink from a cup because we cannot stand "their messes"??? 6 M( X' U# a) X+ ]
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The night time sleep is the same, are we trusting our baby's ability to fall asleep on his own???0 n F- |# b% y3 p. X& x/ h& H. A
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Before you make any changes, ask yourself these questions:3 I' P2 ^' J% A
Is your child's sleeping pattern bothers you?
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If your answer is "yes" ,do something. If your answer is "no", forget it, keep doing the same routine you are doing now.
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I know some of the parents chose to sleep with their children, there are no 'good' or 'bad' methods of raising up your children, it is a personal choices. The concerns I have here are: parents might not have a good night sleep because thery were worried that they might harm or suffocated their baby. Parents and children sleep in one bed might have a harder time of letting go each other, e.g. starting kindergarten, child might feel frighten of being alone without mom, mom might feel hard to let child go to school alone without "her protection". Of course there are always exceptionals.
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' t- R1 p7 r) C ?1 C/ ^/ pSleeping might also be disturb becaue of teething or baby feels "too warm" etc........these will be another discussion. 8 W$ a! I9 S- J& X! ]' C$ `
' Z# K$ H' b- T! T5 L, T8 v5 `: DAll these are for reference only! I hope someone could translate this page into Chinese. Thanks! |
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