Cold War

Matrix

I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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$ [! ~) _8 `; BSo here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.

Every morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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8 _7 e( t* N9 l( S5 ~7 Q# NDay 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
( X  {4 C5 M6 n9 x" u5 @            Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
            I am fine, thanks!       (You)

! @+ [, V2 P; d3 b  iDay 2: Repeat  Day 1 (You)
            Repeat  Day 1 (Co-worker)
7 L8 a2 `+ S  P9 @            I am fine, and how are you. (You)
            Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)
            Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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- |* U1 M; ~7 y5 a0 _5 O% K# KDay 3: Repeat
2 c9 I5 P) z' F; S- Z0 O            Repeat
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" b  h9 m- w* |$ f# L) G! r0 g            I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
            Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
            Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker)
           Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)
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Next Monday: Repeat
                        Repeat
# y' q' y& c1 a2 y4 w6 h2 `6 F                        How was your weekend? (You)
7 P1 z4 U3 s+ p                        Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
                        Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
* P2 k' }" P) @& b                        Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)
                        Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.
                        Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
  [4 ]& {% R. ?: }: D* e% z                        Great idea and I will
                        Bla—Bla—Bla
                        Then you see the boss walking by
                         It is time to stop.
                     

2 D+ U: D4 d0 V6 B( P1 [The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category.  The serious business conversation will be with another topic.
8 k4 I/ \+ L6 i1 c. x( e+ pAnd I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.

4 l) m8 ^( O) _5 m: z! V5 ]7 i. P[ 本帖最后由 Matrix 于 2008-8-27 23:47 编辑 ]

billzhao

Excellent! and some flowers for you to show my great appreciation.