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I would like to take this chance to talk about the issues of how to make a last and profound conversation with locals since some friends have complained that they only have the ability to do the short talks with co-workers or strangers. I call the short talk the Cold War, meaning it is a long last personal struggle or an impossible mission. I still remember I have encountered few embarrass seniors few years ago, but things are getting better year after year. Since this summer, I start to feel very comfortable as I chat with people I met every day. For example, I need to find some info around the place I just moved in. While I was driving around the blocks this afternoon, I saw a good lady was mending her yard. She was the only person I can find, so I decided to talk to this lady. I parked the car and greeted to her. I asked her about the neighborhood such as banks, supermarkets and so on. She answered me with her best capability. Then she invited me to her condo to have a little chat. She wrote down some of the contact names and the numbers of her friends in case I need more help and told me about few neighbor’s stories. At the end, I got plenty of information than I intended to. It all came very natural and our conversation was quite enjoyable.
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So here are some of self-made rules which have worked well for me.. P# y/ ~1 |& K
8 U6 U. I' G( U0 NEvery morning, practice the chat and image that you are both A and B actors or actresses:
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Day 1: Good morning, Sandra (You)
5 c1 P, ~% N. y4 B& ?; T# t7 L Good morning, Ming. How are you? (Co-worker)
7 p; _9 l9 S% {2 z- @ c7 ~ I am fine, thanks! (You)
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2 V$ R+ @7 ?0 c3 f: }Day 2: Repeat Day 1 (You); x, F+ p# }$ f
Repeat Day 1 (Co-worker): c, m; V) q+ E; B% z9 `
I am fine, and how are you. (You)
' \. ^. b9 m8 J4 m3 ~, V4 y Not too bad, I like your shirt; it looks gorgers (Co-Worker)# M3 c( [9 n+ N. e
Thanks, I bought it from China last summer. (You)
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" p2 T/ L% l* U9 H. D6 DDay 3: Repeat
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Repeat
+ x# o1 e. @* f9 O# r% l I could not be better, Thank god it is Friday. (Co-worker)
9 H" \7 L. e; a1 Q; D Finally, so do you have plan for the weekend? (You)
5 Z7 ~+ S' C* C# c. O; p x Oh, ya, I am going to visit my mother-in-law even I hates her, but my husband will make me to see her. (Co-worker). C- k4 G" O6 ]" f+ [/ r6 o
Poor you, oh, I wish you have a good weekend, and come back with a good mood. You know what I mean. (You)1 p T$ E( f" r% a M( N
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Next Monday: Repeat0 {: y& e) ^; Y3 w4 N' Y3 \, c, h
Repeat
4 x% U! x: y( _ How was your weekend? (You)
4 a/ b9 R5 I, l/ `; E2 F' e Not bad. My mother-in-law was so tolerable this time, and she made a big super. So we all sit outside and enjoyed the beautiful day with family. (Co-worker)
! v# A( W) d: d8 m/ M Is that right? Where does your mother-in-law live? (You)
' z5 l! \/ A3 ^: j7 W Pigeon Lake. It was packed on the weekend. (Co-worker)) M3 D( t. X6 C6 r
Oh, Pigeon Lake, I have been there once and we caught some good fish.' n/ q' R! V/ X* R+ [; [1 e
Really, I don’t know you like fishing, may be you should come with me next time.
5 c. S' B: [" F3 a$ Z& S Great idea and I will
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Then you see the boss walking by1 X9 X5 D2 f r& f9 B o
It is time to stop.8 X* S. w6 ^+ i7 I% ?
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The above mentioned examples are under daily small talks or gossip category. The serious business conversation will be with another topic.5 e. p0 }0 q8 R. ?% P/ U8 K x
And I advise everyone should find the way that works best for her/him.
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